Cats look small, cute, and playful. But imagine an angry little ball of fur. Are all cats bouncy all the time? Certainly not. While some cats may have angry episodes, some are aggressive by nature. Taming an angry cat can be challenging. It seems rather difficult to calm them down when the felines get annoyed. And that's the only thing that makes cats mysterious. They are playful and loving all the time, but they can get extremely aggressive when they get angry or upset. 

However, to calm them down, you have to find different approaches because what works for your cat may not work for your neighbour's cat. Different cats have different personalities, so there cannot be one solution that fits all. 

But here, we are going to share some tips that will help you understand how to calm a cat down when he is angry, aggressive, or furious with you. But first, we are going to look at the cause of his anxiety.

What Makes a Cat Angry?

Sometimes why your cat is anxious, it depends on how s/he is feeling about the present situation or it could be something that has happened in the past. There could be a mix of different reasons. Sometimes it is fear, pain, or conflict with another cat that make them angry. Here are a few things you need to consider when you are trying to understand why your cat is upset:

A Change in Routine

Cats are habitual creatures, and they do not like small changes in their routine because it makes them nervous. Sometimes, even a small change in the routine such as you coming in late because you were working late at night or have not returned home last night can make them mad! 

Poor Memory 

Sometimes, age-related concerns can make your cat violent. As they age and as their memory gets worse, they might get aggressive. 

Your Long Absence 

There are instances of cat owners noticing anger, when they travel for long periods of time. Even if they are well taken care of, your long absence can annoy them. 

Past trauma 

If something happens to your cat in the past and the current situation triggers that trauma, she can get anxious right away. Try to observe their mood when they are near certain people, hear a certain sound, or find a certain object. 


This one is a no-brainer. When your cat is not feeling well, he will show aggressiveness so that you can understand that he is not in himself right now. 

There are a few signs an angry cat can show, and that's when you recognize that your cat is not happy at all. If your cat matches these signs, it's time to move on to the next step and find out how to make him calm again. 

Frequent growling
Not showing interest in favourite toys anymore
Refusing to come out while hiding
Biting when you try to pet them
Clawing the furniture
Not eating their favourite meal
Twitching their tail
Their ears are flattened back or sticking out

If your cat has been showing some or all of these signs, then there are some things you could do to make them calm and relax again.

Offer a Safe Place 

If your cat is stressed by a new situation or a new friend you brought home, offer her a safe place where she can relax. If there are multiple cats in your house, then you can keep the angry cat in their condo or a special place where no other cat can enter. Here the angry cat can lie down for some time and relax on her own.

Do Not Yell at Your Cat

Even though yelling at your dog works in manipulating him to obey your order, it seldom works on a cat. If you yell at your cat, s/he will respond to this negative gesture with an equally negative attitude. So, it is best not to yell at your cat but make sure to create a bond by letting them know that they are safe with you. 

Do Not Let Small Kids Go Near the Cat

Do not let small kids interact with the cat even when she is loyal and gentle with you. It's not like that you should be worried that your kid might hurt the cat, but it is the other way around. If the kid touches the cat or something as small as even pinching the fur can make the cat mad, and he might bite in return. Try to keep the cats and small kids at different places where they would not be able to interact with each other. 

Apply Calming Diffusers and Sprays

There are various products available on the market, such as diffusers and sprays that are made of natural feline pheromones and can calm down your cat. This will help your cat feel safe and sound, and he will quiet down after a while.

Contact the Vet

If your cat is getting angry and anxious suddenly and frequently, this can be due to an underlying health condition. In that case, you need to contact the veterinarian immediately. If there is an underlying health issue or infection in your cat, then your vet can detect the health condition earlier and help you treat your cat accordingly. 

Follow these methods to keep your cat calm when he is up with aggression and anxiety, but if these things don't help, then you need to check up with your veterinarian immediately.